5 More Great Things You Need To Know About Yourself
In the previous article, we talked about 5 great things about you that you might’ve never known about before, yet they are very important for you to know. Therefore, consider this part 2 to that article, because here are the other 5 great things you need to know about yourself. They are 10 in total! And if you read part 1 to this article, you will remember that these have a lot to do with the quality of love.
6. You have the ability to be Genuine: Yes, I mentioned being genuine a few times in the last article, yet it was necessary to include this as one of the 10 great things about you because of how fake many people can be these days. Some people are so good at acting that I wouldn’t be surprised if they had an Oscar sitting at home. They put on different personalities as if they were putting on different costumes.
Personally speaking, I believe it’s better to put on a real costume once in a while than to put a costume on your real personality. I don’t know about you, but I’m not a fan of fronts, facades or fake people. I give them all F’s! Dumb joke, but seriously though, whether it’s to impress someone or to cover up something you’re doing, you’re only fooling yourself in the long run.
Let me give you a somewhat common example in the world. Let’s say someone did something upsetting to someone else in private, then played the innocent role in front of others. Later, out of peaked frustration or pain, the actual victim approached that person in an upset state. Then, when others looked at the victim in a provoked state, they quickly cast judgement upon the person that’s upset, unbeknownst to the overall situation.
All of this just ends up in a disaster for the victim of course, but also for the deceiver and even the spectators. The deceiver thinks they may get away with it, yet it eventually catches up with them. Plus what goes around, really does come around! The spectators get involved in a very uncomfortable situation. And the victim may get unfairly blamed, shamed, or ridiculed instead of supported. This simply becomes a big problem for everyone that is involved.
Fronting a fake personality might help you seemingly win the battles up front, yet you will definitely lose the war thereafter. And there just may be other wars you might only win together with the help of the very people you intend to deceive. Regardless how few, some people are still aware that looks can really be deceiving, and no matter how long or how many you think you’ve fooled, sooner or later the truth comes out.
Then you’ll be considered untrustworthy and will bear the burden of people’s suspicion upon you. Being your real self however, will help you win more people over, real people, not to mention people like you. Moreover, being genuine will help you earn people’s trust and respect!
7.You have the ability to Smile: Come on, you definitely have the ability to give out a big bright smile, and you probably have a nice smile too. Even if you don’t think you do, it’s likely just you thinking that way. Besides, a smile is always better than a frown, regardless if you need retainers, braces or to completely rebuild your teeth. Yet, if it helps, check out these 5 tips on how to easily get a million dollar smile!
Simply smiling at others is a kind gesture that will likely make other people’s day, as well as yours. Now, you don’t have to be a bubbly person with a 24 hour teeth display, plus you don’t necessarily have to show your teeth to smile. Yet, a genuine smile you give someone can make them feel good, which also helps them warm up to you easier.
Smiling can also make you feel good personally because of the neurotransmitters called endorphin’s that are released when you smile. These are basically the chemicals in your brain that make you feel happy. As a result of that, smiling also helps you reduce stress and feel more relaxed. Legend has it that smiling can even help you live longer too. Whether that’s true or not, why not take that safe chance. And finally, you look better when you’re smiling anyway, so keep smiling!
8. You have the ability to Commend: For some reason, it seems to come easier for people to condemn others than to commend them. Yet how different and much nicer would things be if this was the other way around? Well, you have the power to turn this around and to encourage others to do it too. You already have the ability to focus on the good qualities, good features and good deeds in people, so why not compliment them for these too?
People are not movies we can simply critique! Instead, search out the good in them, like you would search for treasure buried beneath dirt. We’re all imperfect therefore we all have dirt, I mean we’re literally made out of it. Yet we all have unique treasures within us, and that’s what we should be looking for in each other. Once you’ve done that, people will certainly appreciate you for genuinely commending them instead of condemning them.
Consider too that you don’t have to limit your compliments simply to those close to you. I’ve noticed people almost glorify good qualities of those they have some affiliation with. Yet they ignore great qualities from someone they might consider different. In fact, they search for ways to criticize others, meanwhile they’ll tolerate, even justify something worse done by someone closer to them.
We however can agree that instead of being bias, it’s much better to focus on everyone’s great qualities and perhaps show our appreciation through a sincere commendation. I mean, let me ask you this, do you like it when someone commends you for something? Do you like it when someone compliments you?
Whether you admit to it or not, we all certainly appreciate it when someone compliments us. It makes us feel good and also makes us feel good about the person that’s complementing us. And as a result, you’re drawn more to that person, just like they would be drawn to you if you were the one complimenting them.
You see, compliments and commendations are like gifts you can give people freely, which are often appreciated more than physical gifts. And these are gifts that can be easily exchanged. If you didn’t already know this, most people carry a sign over their head that says, “make me feel important”, and by giving a sincere commendation you fulfill this for them which is a great gift to give.
Let me emphasize a ‘sincere’ commendation! Again, you want to be genuine. You don’t want it to be perceived as flattery or fake like we mentioned earlier. So keep practicing your ability to commend and compliment people genuinely. You’ll love it and they will love you for it.
9. You have the ability to practice humility: It’s easy to be arrogant, conceited and stuck up with pride. Yet how do you feel about people that are such way? Seriously, how are such people viewed among society? They probably won’t get too far before they’re rejected and avoided because they’re just not pleasant people to be around.
On the other hand, you have the power to harness some humility, which is in fact a lot more powerful than arrogance. This is because humility is a lot more pleasant than a prideful spirit. I mean, wouldn’t you agree that the more pleasant you become the more valuable you are? And the more valuable you are, the more power you have?
For starters, you have the ability to be humble enough to acknowledge the things you need to work on, and actually work on them. Some people justify, rationalize, minimize, or even deny their flaws and wrong doings. Then they turn around to focus heavily on other people’s flaws, to the point of exaggerating them at times.
In fact, there’s even people that blame others for their own wrong doings! You though don’t have to be this way, and you probably aren’t. Hopefully anyway! Yet let me share something with you that I’ve come to realize and appreciate.
Being more aware of the things I myself had to work on has helped me realize that it’s much better to put the focus on yourself so that you can shed light on what you need to improve, and thereof become a better person. Which by the way, you have more control of anyway! You don’t have such control on other people’s flaws. I think it was in G.I. Joe where they said that knowing is half the battle, so once you know what you have to work on, the other half of the battle is actually working on it.
Furthermore, you can adopt the humility of a child in realizing that there are a lot of things you’ve yet to discover or learn. There’s a whole universe of things you never knew you never knew, some of which you might just discover here through TIAAY. So give yourself the chance to learn new things in life by humbly accepting that you don’t know it all.
Life becomes more exciting this way anyway! In fact, realize that what you see out there is really not all there is, all that has ever been or all there will ever be. Therefore, have an open mind for greater things to come, new perspectives and things you yourself will manifest.
Speaking of you manifesting great things, you can also be humble enough to realize and accept when you could use some help in your own endeavors. And just in case I haven’t already told you this, help is something you have unlimited access to out there. Including through TIAAY! Having someone lend you a hand is by no means degrading.
10. You are simply Unique: Did you know that you don’t have to follow the crowd in everything they do? You don’t have to look like them. You don’t have to think like them. You don’t have to be like them. You don’t have to do what they do. In fact, you don’t even have to quack like them! And you certainly shouldn’t worry about what they think of you.
You can love yourself just the way you are! Because yes, you are unique, yet that’s what makes you valuable. Being unique, different, or even “crazy” are not necessarily all bad things anyway. They’re in fact exciting things! The rest is pretty much mediocrity and boring. So love yourself the way you are and remember to love others too, treating them equally and genuinely.
As a matter of fact, let me end this by sharing this quote from Steve Jobs, which you may have already heard before, yet might be worth revisiting:
“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. The only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~ Steve Jobs