10 Great Things You Need To Know About Yourself
Imagine if you will, standing on a stage with a microphone in front of you and millions of people watching you. Then you are asked, “What is the greatest thing about you?” How would you respond? What would you tell the millions of people watching?
Your answer may reveal a unique great truth about you, while you reflect on a balanced view of yourself. You may want your answer to sound significant and confident of course. Yet, you don’t want to sound arrogant either.
Whatever your answer to that question is, did you know that there IS in fact something else great about you that you should definitely be proud of. And it’s very significant! Not to mention, you probably won’t seem arrogant bragging about this. It’s something that can truly be considered the greatest thing about you, which you should happily be able to express to millions.
Have you guessed what it is yet? What if I told you that it’s not what you think, but rather something you feel. Yes, it is… your ability to Love. Now wait, before you go on thinking I’m getting all soft on you, hear me out.
With how rough this world keeps getting, the quality of love really is like a rare diamond in the rough, and a very important one at that. Despite all of the hate and division going on out there right now, being a loving person can promote kindness and unity. Not to mention, this quality contributes to true leadership.
In fact, there are 10 great things about you that have a lot to do with love and the amazing person that you are. So as promised in the headline, let’s reveal these 10 great things about you! It’s important that you understand these before we get deeper into other incredible things about you.
This way, as you realize your potential, you also realize all the good you can do for others too. I’m sure you can agree that life is not just about helping yourself, but helping others too. Well then, here are the 10 great things about you.
1. You have the ability to be Considerate: This may sound weak but this is all about you, which includes other people too, people that you have the great ability to be considerate of. You see, as you gradually realize your value, your potential and the possibilities that exist around you, you’ll have the power to use this not just for yourself, but also in consideration of others too.
We’re not here simply to satisfy our own desires but also to contribute greatness to others and our planet. And much like our planet, what goes around, really does comes around. Furthermore, being considerate towards others makes you stand out in the sea of selfish, self-pleasing people around you, in essence making you more valuable.
Unfortunately, there really are a lot of inconsiderate people out there that, redundantly speaking, only consider themselves. They selfishly do whatever they want even if it harms other people, with some of them even having the audacity to act like they care. In fact, there are people that don’t realize or even care how they may be disturbing, inconveniencing or even hurting others.
There are some that don’t even realize how much people may have already been tolerating them! Yet when someone else does even 10% back to them, they get all defensive because only then it’s serious, only then it matters. It’s all fun and games until it happens to them. I know, this all seemed rather specific and personal.
Now, I’m not saying to go overboard with this, but when we consider acknowledging what others may be tolerating from us, this can help us be more considerate with them in return. Furthermore, you can remember to tolerate them when they do something to you as well. Overall, it just might be a good idea to be cognizant of how our actions may affect people, out of consideration for them, and for yourself.
Besides, when we really embrace this, it really is much nicer and safer to just be considerate with people. And what about the joy that comes out of being considerate towards others? It’s a joy like no other, that both parties can enjoy and appreciate. Yet, for this to take place effectively, this calls for another great ability you have.
2. You have the ability to be Understanding: Yes, you have the ability to realize that we are all imperfect and therefore all fall short somehow; not to mention that we’re all dealing with some kind of trial. The truth is, we’re all in this together! Therefore, you can agree that we shouldn’t be quick to judge or condemn people merely by what appears to be on the surface.
It’s easy to jump to conclusions from what we may see. It’s easy to create an opinion of someone just by what someone else may say about them. It’s easy to judge someone simply by their past mistakes. It’s easy to shame someone by mere stigmas. It’s easy to be indifferent with someone just because of their race or gender. Yet, it takes effort to be understanding towards all, which you are totally capable of.
For example, if you see someone being rude on the road, there’s nothing holding you back from reasoning that perhaps they’re just having a bad day. And maybe you’ve had bad days where you’ve reacted the same way. If someone talks bad about someone else, you can reason that there’s another side to the story. It’s important to give others the benefit of the doubt, just like you would appreciate this if your name was slandered.
If someone has a questionable past, you can reason that perhaps that person has changed or is striving to improve, or maybe there’s more to the story that led them to react such ways in their past. And in case you haven’t heard this today, no ones perfect! Yet these are just some examples of what being understanding can mean, because you never know what people may be going through.
Being understanding is such a valuable virtue to have in a world where we’re all facing some kind of trial. Plus, life really is better when we’re more aware of the trials others may be going through. Life is better when we’re also more aware of the good their is in people. And life gets even better when we focus more on the improvements we need to make ourselves.
Living life this way helps us treat people better and become better people! Besides, if we all tossed away judging and practiced more understanding, we would be living in a world that’s a bit more loving. And this takes us to the next great thing about you. Do you know what it is?
3. You have the ability to be Fair: Yes, you have this great ability of deciphering what’s just and unjust. From a very early age, we could conclude that if our sibling got more candy than we did, it wasn’t fair. Now we use this ability on a bigger scale!
For example, if someone gets more privileges at work than you do, for no apparent reason to you, you might say something about it. If you see someone being treated unfairly, you might feel compelled to do something about it to help them. You see, throughout your life, you’re constantly battling life to be played out fairly, for you and for others.
Let’s consider the matter of perspectives or taking sides for example. We mentioned earlier that there’s always another side to a story, therefore blindly taking one person’s side wouldn’t really be fair right? There is enough reason in you to know that it’s only fair to have a full picture before confirming anything.
Yet parents may have a tendency to see their child in the right regardless; friends might defend their friends even when they’re wrong; lawyers defend their clients because they’re getting paid; and fans defend their idols even when they commit crimes. This just proves that it’s easy to be bias, to justify those we may have an affiliation with, while condemning the other. Sometimes even society can have an influence to our bias.
You however have the capability to look past all of this and handle things more fairly. I mean, would you just shun, disregard, discredit or disqualify people or things, if all you had was just one perspective? Whether it’s a person, a business, a movie or whatever, you can reason that it’s only fair to give them a chance by finding out for yourself.
A fool may be a fool, but at least you gave them a chance to find out for yourself. A movie may be a bad movie, yet opinions are different and at least you gave it a chance by watching it yourself. A business may be a bad business… well there are these things called reviews, and you get my point.
Listen, even when it comes to reviews, you just really never know. Some things that may not work for others may just work for you. There have been many restaurants and movies with bad reviews that I happened to like! My mom has a saying, different colors were made for different taste. Yeah, it sounds better in Spanish.
The same goes for people! You might get along with someone that another person might not like. Imagine losing the opportunity of getting to know a lifetime best friend simply because of what someone else said. You might even miss your chance of true love because of this!
Again, we’re all in this together, yet we’re unique as individuals. So why not put to use your ability of opening your eyes, opening your mind, and more importantly opening your heart to people and things you haven’t personally gotten to know well yourself? This way you will be fair with others and fair with yourself.
4. You have the ability to be Compassionate: I get it, not everyone is a caring, lovey-dovey person, with a personality classified as a hugger, yet that doesn’t excuse being cold and heartless. After all, we all may go through something at some point in life where we’d appreciate some compassion. And it’s really not that difficult to put yourself in other people’s shoes to develop some compassion for them. You actually can do this and you probably have many times.
Think about the people that are suffering from hunger in foreign lands. Think about the people that are suffering from cancer in your own land. Think about the people that are suffering invisible things very few will ever understand. And what about the animals suffering from human exploitation? How do you feel about that? Evidently your compassion is well needed out there, especially with how crazy this year has been, starting with this global pandemic.
Being that we all have struggles, compassion can really go a long way nowadays; not to mention practicing acts of kindness through our compassion. Let me add practicing ‘genuine’ acts of kindness, not simply to be seen. You can do good deeds without needing to have spectators or gain brownie points.
Yet if you are a genuine compassionate person, your acts of kindness will come naturally, and you’ll be further ahead in life than many are. I’ve been mentioning throughout this article that we’re in this together, and that’s because we really are. However, we become stronger together when we help each other, and being compassionate with one another is a great way of doing this.
5. You have the ability to be Respectful: You also have the ability to give people the respect they’re due. You can remember that a person doesn’t have to be a super star or in power for you to respect them. Everyone deserves your respect, unless they do something immensely wrong to you. And even then you can prove yourself respectful through forgiveness. You don’t have to be close with them or maybe even associate with them, yet you can forgive, be kind and move on.
Being respectful with others can also include things like good etiquette, politeness and common courtesies. You won’t lose anything by opening the door for someone (women or men), or offering your seat to the elderly or a pregnant woman. Yet, you might open yourself the door to a new friendship and perhaps other opportunities.
6. You have the ability to be Genuine: Yes, I’ve mentioned being genuine a few times, yet it was necessary to include this as one of the 10 great things about you because of how fake many people can be. Some people are so good at acting that I wouldn’t be surprised if they had an Oscar sitting at home. They put on different personalities as if they were putting on different costumes.
Personally speaking, I believe it’s better to put on a real costume once in a while than to put a costume on your real personality. I don’t know about you, but I’m not a fan of fronts, facades or fake people. I give them all F’s! Dumb joke, but seriously though, whether it’s to impress someone or to cover up something you’re doing, you’re only fooling yourself in the long run.
Let me give you a somewhat common example in the world. Let’s say someone did something upsetting to someone else in private, then played the innocent role in front of others. Later, out of peaked frustration or pain, the actual victim approached that person in an upset state. Then, when others looked at the victim in a provoked state, they quickly cast judgement upon the person that’s upset, unbeknownst to the overall situation.
All of this just ends up in a disaster for the victim of course, but also for the deceiver and even the spectators. The deceiver thinks they may get away with it, yet it eventually catches up with them. Plus what goes around, really does come around! The spectators get involved in a very uncomfortable situation. And the victim may get unfairly blamed, shamed, or ridiculed instead of supported. This simply becomes a big problem for everyone that is involved.
Fronting a fake personality might help you seemingly win the battles up front, yet you will definitely lose the war thereafter. And there just may be other wars you might only win together with the help of the very people you intend to deceive. Regardless how few, some people are still aware that looks can really be deceiving, and no matter how long or how many you think you’ve fooled, sooner or later the truth comes out.
Then you’ll be considered untrustworthy and will bear the burden of people’s suspicion upon you. Being your real self however, will help you win more people over, real people, not to mention people like you. Moreover, being genuine will help you earn people’s trust and respect!
7.You have the ability to Smile: Come on, you definitely have the ability to give out a big bright smile, and you probably have a nice smile too. Even if you don’t think you do, it’s likely just you thinking that way. Besides, a smile is always better than a frown, even if you need braces or retainers.
Simply smiling at others is a kind gesture that will likely make other people’s day, as well as yours. Now, you don’t have to be a bubbly person with a 24 hour teeth display, plus you don’t necessarily have to show your teeth to smile. Yet, a genuine smile you give someone can make them feel good, which also helps them warm up to you easier.
Smiling can also make you feel good personally because of the neurotransmitters called endorphin’s that are released when you smile. These are basically the chemicals in your brain that make you feel happy. As a result of that, smiling also helps you reduce stress and feel more relaxed. Legend has it that smiling can even help you live longer too. Whether that’s true or not, why not take that safe chance. And finally, you look better when you’re smiling anyway, so keep smiling!
8. You have the ability to Commend: For some reason, it seems to come easier for people to condemn others than to commend them. Yet how different and much nicer would things be if this was the other way around? Well, you have the power to turn this around and to encourage others to do it too. You already have the ability to focus on the good qualities, good features and good deeds in people, so why not compliment them for these too?
People are not movies we can simply critique! Instead, search out the good in them, like you would search for treasure buried beneath dirt. We’re all imperfect therefore we all have dirt, I mean we’re literally made out of it. Yet we all have unique treasures within us, and that’s what we should be looking for in each other. Once you’ve done that, people will certainly appreciate you for genuinely commending them instead of condemning them.
Consider too that you don’t have to limit your compliments simply to those close to you. I’ve noticed people almost glorify good qualities of those they have some affiliation with. Yet they ignore great qualities from someone they might consider different. In fact, they search for ways to criticize others, meanwhile they’ll tolerate, even justify something worse done by someone closer to them.
We however can agree that instead of being bias, it’s much better to focus on everyone’s great qualities and perhaps show our appreciation through a sincere commendation. I mean, let me ask you this, do you like it when someone commends you for something? Do you like it when someone compliments you?
Whether you admit to it or not, we all certainly appreciate it when someone compliments us. It makes us feel good and also makes us feel good about the person that’s complementing us. And as a result, you’re drawn more to that person, just like they would be drawn to you if you were the one complimenting them.
You see, compliments and commendations are like gifts you can give people freely, which are often appreciated more than physical gifts. And these are gifts that can be easily exchanged. If you didn’t already know this, most people carry a sign over their head that says, “make me feel important”, and by giving a sincere commendation you fulfill this for them which is a great gift to give.
Let me emphasize a ‘sincere’ commendation! Again, you want to be genuine. You don’t want it to be perceived as flattery or fake like we mentioned earlier. So keep practicing your ability to commend and compliment people genuinely. You’ll love it and they will love you for it.
9. You have the ability to practice humility: It’s easy to be arrogant, conceited and stuck up with pride. Yet how do you feel about people that are such way? Seriously, how are such people viewed among society? They probably won’t get too far before they’re rejected and avoided because they’re just not pleasant people to be around.
On the other hand, you have the power to harness some humility, which is in fact a lot more powerful than arrogance. This is because humility is a lot more pleasant than a prideful spirit. I mean, wouldn’t you agree that the more pleasant you become the more valuable you are? And the more valuable you are, the more power you have?
For starters, you have the ability to be humble enough to acknowledge the things you need to work on, and actually work on them. Some people justify, rationalize, minimize, or even deny their flaws and wrong doings. Then they turn around to focus heavily on other people’s flaws, to the point of exaggerating them at times.
In fact, there’s even people that blame others for their own wrong doings! You though don’t have to be this way, and you probably aren’t. Hopefully anyway! Yet let me share something with you that I’ve come to realize and appreciate.
Being more aware of the things I myself had to work on has helped me realize that it’s much better to put the focus on yourself so that you can shed light on what you need to improve, and thereof become a better person. Which by the way, you have more control of anyway! You don’t have such control on other people’s flaws. I think it was in G.I. Joe where they said that knowing is half the battle, so once you know what you have to work on, the other half of the battle is actually working on it.
Furthermore, you can adopt the humility of a child in realizing that there are a lot of things you’ve yet to discover or learn. There’s a whole universe of things you never knew you never knew, some of which you might just discover here through TIAAY. So give yourself the chance to learn new things in life by humbly accepting that you don’t know it all.
Life becomes more exciting this way anyway! In fact, realize that what you see out there is really not all there is, all that has ever been or all there will ever be. Therefore, have an open mind for greater things to come, new perspectives and things you yourself will manifest.
Speaking of you manifesting great things, you can also be humble enough to realize and accept when you could use some help in your own endeavors. And just in case I haven’t already told you this, help is something you have unlimited access to out there. Including through TIAAY! Having someone lend you a hand is by no means degrading.
10. You are simply Unique: Did you know that you don’t have to follow the crowd in everything they do? You don’t have to look like them. You don’t have to think like them. You don’t have to be like them. You don’t have to do what they do. In fact, you don’t even have to quack like them! And you certainly shouldn’t worry about what they think of you.
You can love yourself just the way you are! Because yes, you are unique, yet that’s what makes you valuable. Being unique, different, or even “crazy” are not necessarily all bad things anyway. They’re in fact exciting things! The rest is pretty much mediocrity and boring. So love yourself the way you are and remember to love others too, treating them equally and genuinely.
As a matter of fact, let me end this by sharing this quote from Steve Jobs, which you may have already heard before, yet might be worth revisiting:
“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. The only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~ Steve Jobs
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